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A Recipe For Disaster


Like a recipe for disaster, some churches and parachurch organizations today are emerging by merging repetitive soulish music, excessive fasting, extensive sleep deprivation and aberrant teachings into their regular programs and activities.

The true bridal paradigm is about the Bride of Christ getting ready for the Second Coming of Jesus. And the Bride is the Church of Christ. Allegorically, Jesus is the Bridegroom and the Church is the Bride. It is not about lovesick Christians trying to become the brides of Christ! There is only one Bride. The Church of Christ!

Any truth, if taken to an extreme, can easily become a heresy. A profane and unholy bridal paradigm arises because it goes overboard. It has a strong dominion theology where they misinterpret the Word of God, and carry out unwholesome activities. They interpret and perceive all Scriptures as the relentless pursuit of a heavenly and lovesick Bridegroom seeking for the bride of His heart desire. This is truly not the gospel of Christ about a loving God redeeming a lost humanity.

They describe God to be in love, lovesick or having a ravished heart. He is the great Lover with fire in His eyes for His bride. As such, Christians must respond in a similar manner, and pray for their love to be awakened and ravished by the love of the Bridegroom etc. Overly romantic phrases are excessively and exaggeratedly used to describe God’s love for us, and our love for God.

Their theology portrays a God who cannot find joy apart from us, and will never be complete or satisfied without us. They even preach that Jesus will finally return to earth when He cannot take it any longer. These beliefs describe an adolescent and uncontrollable youth having puppy love, and not the agape, amazing, wonderful, divine, longsuffering and sacrificial love of our Almighty God. Their God is totally opposite from the God of the Bible.

Their profane and corrupted bridal paradigm theology is often very sensual and soulish as it emphasizes on having a physical and romantic relationship with God. By extremely allegorizing the Song of Solomon, they inevitably paint and promote a sensuous Jesus. All of their language, their songs and their teachings include words such as intimacy, ravished heart, and lovesickness. And their music goes on and on. Non-stop 24/7. Endlessly repetitive, mesmerizing, mystical and hypnotic.

Matthew 6:7
And when you pray, do not use vain repetitions as the heathen do. For they think that they will be heard for their many words.

Just like the pagans do, these Christians keep reciting the same prayers and singing the same phrases over and over again! They think that their prayers are answered only by repeating them again and again. They also think that God loves to listen to their repetitive songs! But God is seeking for true worshipers Who will worship the Father in spirit and truth; for the Father is seeking such to worship Him. Vain repetitions is simply not what God desires.

Ecclesiastes 5:1-7
1 Walk prudently when you go to the house of God; and draw near to hear rather than to give the sacrifice of fools, for they do not know that they do evil.
2 Do not be rash with your mouth,
And let not your heart utter anything hastily before God.
For God is in heaven, and you on earth;
Therefore let your words be few.

3 For a dream comes through much activity,
And a fool’s voice is known by his many words.
4 When you make a vow to God, do not delay to pay it;
For He has no pleasure in fools.
Pay what you have vowed—
5 Better not to vow than to vow and not pay.
6 Do not let your mouth cause your flesh to sin, nor say before the messenger of God that it was an error. Why should God be angry at your excuse and destroy the work of your hands?
7 For in the multitude of dreams and many words there is also vanity. But fear God.

Praying without ceasing is both Biblical and recommended. Prayer is a two way communication with God. We pray, and God hears. God speaks, and we listen. Most of the time is spent waiting on the Lord, walking and talking with Him along the paths of life. But many have gone to the extremes and adopted the contemplative prayer movement, focusing on mysticism and contemplative spirituality rather than on worshipping the Lord and interceding for others through prayers.

Contemplative prayer begins with a centering prayer whereby a person focuses on a word and repeats that word over and over during the prayer time. Its purpose is to empty and free the mind in order to empower oneself. It is like transcendental meditation - a technique for detaching oneself from anxiety and promoting harmony and self-realization by meditation, repetition of a mantra, and other yogic practices, propagated by some gurus.

After the centering prayer, the person is to sit still, listen for some guidance directly from God, and encounter His presence. All is done to get a word after emptying the mind and claim it in faith! Rather than humbling ourselves and submitting to the will of God, the emphasis is now about feeling and experiencing God, claiming what is ours and letting our will be done! These ecstatic practices of praying are not Biblical, and thus not recommended.

Most of them have 24/7 prayer sessions in prayer rooms that stretch into the wee hours of the night. They often practice extreme forms of fasting and militant forms of praying. Frequently in trying to get spiritually high, they do something that can easily get out of control, resulting in unhealthy consequences. In 2009, Lee Grady, an editor of Charisma Magazine, wrote this in an article entitled "Strange Fire In The House Of The Lord": "It won't be long before we see some Christians having sexual experiences at the altar."

There are essentially three actions available for Christians to obtain a proper and Biblical picture of God and His relationship to the Church.

Firstly, by including all other metaphors to describe the Church and not just focusing only on one metaphor. The Church is called the Bride of Christ, but that is not the only calling of the Church.

The Church is also called:

  • the Body of Christ (1 Corinthians 12:27)
  • the children of God (1 John 3:1)
  • a wild olive tree (Romans 11:17)
  • living stones (1 Peter 2:5)
  • a chosen generation (1 Peter 2:9)
  • a royal priesthood (1 Peter 2:9)
  • a holy nation (1 Peter 2:9)
  • God's own special people (1 Peter 2:9)
  • the flock of God (1 Peter 5:2) and etc.

Any teachings that focus exclusively upon only one metaphor is often out of balance. We cannot simply preoccupy ourselves upon one metaphor to the neglect of the others. We cannot elevate one to the place of primary position and importance, and forget the rest. In the same manner, Jesus is the Bridegroom but He is also the Lord, the King, the Saviour, the Shepherd etc. To focus only on Jesus being the Bridegroom will easily get us off balance and off track.

Secondly, the metaphor of the Bride is used for the Church as a whole, and is never used for an individual believer. The entire church is the Bride of Christ. But some apostolic and prophetic teachers choose to ignore this. Eventually, some Christians think that they are the brides, and Jesus is their Bridegroom. They treat Jesus as their personal boyfriend instead of their Lord and Saviour. Quite inappropriate and totally not Biblically correct.

Thirdly, a metaphor is just a metaphor, not to be taken literally or actualized physically. We are called living stones. But we are not literally or physically stones. We are called the lambs of God. But we are not literally or physically lambs. We are not the lionesses of Judah simply because Jesus is the Lion of Judah. And Jesus is not a lion physically or literally. It is just a metaphor. No amount of roaring can make a human being to become a lion or lioness!

In conclusion, loving God is more than just being lovesick and singing love songs to God without end. It is often done through our love for others by giving to those who are poor and needy among us. If we do not love our brothers and sisters whom we can see, how can we love God whom we have not seen?

1 John 3:17
But whoever has this world’s goods, and sees his brother in need, and shuts up his heart from him, how does the love of God abide in him?

1 John 4:12
No one has seen God at any time. If we love one another,
God abides in us, and His love has been perfected in us.

1 John 4:20
If someone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen, how can he love God whom he has not seen?

For those who are interested, please also read: Bridal Paradigm


Written on: 11 May 2018